Gay virginity (con't)

Many young gays use the old penetration rule used by heterosexuals. The problem is that not ever gay guy is going to be involved with anal sex. It’s possible to consider blowjobs and mutual masturbation as the loss of virginity if you’re not going to do anal sex. But why couldn’t someone just have anal sex and consider themselves a virgin if they don’t participate in oral sex and mutual masturbation? It seems absurd, but maybe we only consider anal sex closer to an actual act of sex because it represents the image of sex that straight intercourse portrays. Sexually stimulating someone else’s body with our own may be enough to be considered sex since all sexual actions are the same at the very core: sexual stimulation.

Maybe gay people should have many gay virginities; anal virginity, masturbated virginity, and oral virginity. You could give all your virginities to that special someone or give one to each of your three favorite lucky guys. I’m not a virgin myself, so I might need to decide how my virginities are given away along with all the other virginal guys out there.

If multiple virginities don’t catch on that’s okay. I have a backup. Losing your virginity might be like having a white pair of pants. You have oral sex and the pants gets stained red. The more you do the more red stains you have. It might feel awkward wearing a pair red stained pants. That’s a lot like how it can be awkward transitioning between being inexperienced and gaining that experience. After you’ve done everything though you’re more confident sexually. That white pair of pants is fully dyed and stops being stained; it simply becomes a beautiful red pair of pants and ever new experience makes it a little richer in color. That's why I were RED pants.

Gay virginity

Penetration makes you lose your gay virginity. Unless you never want to have anal sex. Then it’s blowjobs and mutual masturbation. You might change your mind and decide you want to have anal sex later on though, in which case penetration is your new virginity even though you lost your last virginity because it doesn’t count anymore now that you want to do more. What?

I’ve seen people use the concept of gay virginity to seem more experienced. I’ve also seen it used (more frequently) to make themselves appear pure and innocent. It all depends on how they word their experiences. Maybe the whole ideology behind being gay and a virgin doesn’t hold; the whole concept is too unstable.

Traditionally virginity has been used to capture the image of straight couples getting intimate for the first time but ever since gay culture came out of the closet us queers decided that we too wanted that special moment. Did we think it through? Maybe realizing that we’re gay, coming out, and entering the gay community are enough special landmarks to let us give up virginity. But we could never do that. The idea of a cute young virgin just can’t be shaken as one of the hottest sexual encounters and in the gay world that means it stays. How could we give all that up just because the lines are blurred a little when determining exactly when that cute young virgin actually loses their virginity?

Always on my mine Joe

I was fourteen and you were fifteen
when you took aim and shot your arrow, penetrating
deeply into my body
and making it so
I could not continue
without you inside me.

In clumsy, masculine bodies we could barely control,
stumbling in the pulsing, tingling dark,
feeling our way around corners and obstacles
where we could barely breathe,
and where I went,
you sacrificed
and with a handsome smile, calmly followed.

In surroundings familiar to me but
strange to you,
we made the best
of it and painted
marks of war
on one another’s faces,
brothers-in-arms determined
to survive a tour of duty
in a place where our love
was foreign
and unusual.

Your scholarly transformation
was my education, and as you became wise and strong,
I learned
I could share my burden
and you, surprising even yourself, could carry
the weight of our world.

Now, when I think back to that town,
you are as much a part of it as I,
and as we walked away toward the fire-streaked sunset,
I asked,
and you said yes.

We are together the architects of this
great skyscraper
which at its highest point
touches the horizon
so that there is no distinguishable ending to one
or beginning to the other.

It feels better to write it down

ok, me and my friend were at his house one day and he brought up that he read that alot of tean boys do stuff with ea other.... i didnt know if it wus true but he then asked me if i wanted to try it out... we did and then we started doin it like 2-3 times a week.... we both rele liked it... we blew ea other and jacked ea other off and tryed 69... his wusnt as big so i let him and it felt sooo good.....i almost came while he wus doin this....

when I met this guy, we had this connection. He just made me feel, safe, accepted, good. He was also ( the leader kinda).

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It helps to write it down

The start of the time that I began to realize that I liked boys, and that I liked the thought of naked boys in the same way that other guys liked girls. I don't think I knew that that meant that my sexuality was "gay/homosexual" then , though I certainly realized I was "different". I guess I figured out that "gay" was the correct term for how I felt at a later time, and I don't actually remember when that was.

Have always loved watching boys and their manhood in porn, so yummy to watch the happy ending. Wanted to taste it when I was younger, but never wanted to admit it to myself.

Recently I have admitted I mostly want men, When I can find a good boyfriend. It is so helpful, its great knowing I don't need to regret or feel bad about being open and doing 'gay things' with myself, like tasting myself. I love it now and can't get enough of it! yummy

I think my whole consept of sexual idenity was way too vauge to recognise it. I think I slowly began to realise around 10-11 but i didnt realy identify myself as bisexual because I had no idea what that was. Then It hit me. My friend dared me to look up porn, so I did. I was probably wayyyy to young but who would suspect me? Anyway I typed sex, looked, thought: thats alright but not all that exciting. Then for some reason i typed gay sex, looked thougt: WOW i like this! gay/straight, now I consider myself as gay.

I had just entered middle school, and there was this really cute boy on the bus I rode. He was the first person I had ever had a crush on, and I really wish I talked to him more.
I've never really been attracted to girls in the first place, and I can't see myself being with one...

Talking about it helps !!

Homosexuality is slowly becoming more accepted, even to the point where there are days to celebrate homosexuality.

However I must stress, you can not change who you are, you being homosexual is not something you can decide one day not to be. You'll find a lot more gay people in your area than you might think, so if nothing else, simply take re-assurance in that you are not alone.

Even if you try to live a straight life your still gay. i dont care what people say you cant just stop being gay.

and no. i obviously dont think that there's anything wrong with it at all.

I dont think it matters what sexual orientation a person has. they are still a human being and can be a perfectly good and decent person. i think people should take more notice of who somebody is, rather than what they are.

Problems Problems everywhere !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My friend and I have experimented together. We masturbated each other, rubbed our penises on each other, etc. I really enjoyed it and hope to do it again. I've read that same sex stuff is common. I feel what we have done is okay? I've fantasized about oral sex with him, is that okay to try. I am sure we are both virgins.



I have a very embarrassing problem, I keep getting erections several times a day and I have no control of them. I get them in the showers. Is this normal ? is there anything that can be done to stop me from having them?